Makeup tips for visiting an Iranian coffee shop

Two girls explain how to get your look right when visiting an Iranian coffee shop:

Video tour of Mashad's Arab quarter

Jadid Online has an interesting video tour of the Arab quarter of the Iranian city of Mashad. It's only 5 minutes long, with Persian commentary and English subtitles. It covers the enduring clan system, funeral rites, sport, religion, family and identity.

Interviews with two Iranian women escaping forced marriages

VICE magazine continues it's strong international reporting and focus on the people affected. There's a shortish online interview with two Iranian women who left Iran to become "mail-order brides" in Scandinavia, only to regret it (almost immediately).

When I arrived in Sweden I understood that every word my husband and his family had told me was a lie, and that’s when hell began. He didn’t even come to meet me at the airport. When I finally got to his house, he treated me like I was his dog.

Conflict in Balochistan, Pakistan

The Guardian reports on the conflict in Balochistan, Pakistan's largest province, between Balochs and the Pakistani military and intelligence forces.

If you have not heard of this epic killing spree, though, don't worry: neither have most Pakistanis. Newspaper reports from Balochistan are buried quietly on the inside pages, cloaked in euphemisms or, quite often, not published at all.

This conflict, whilst under-reported, has lots of intrigues: mineral deposits underground, separatist/nationalist groups targeting their own side for not being 'Baloch' enough, police/politicians/military not investigating killings, torture and mutilation.

Iranians imprisoned for playing indie-rock

There's an oldish clip from 2009 of British late-night news show Newsnight about the Iranian band Font going to the UK to play music. They had previously been imprisoned in Iran playing their style of music.

Iranians imprisoned for playing indie-rock

Nazanin Rafsanjani explains ta'arof on This American Life

Nazanin Rafsanjani was a guest on popular NPR radio show This American Life with Nancy Updike, during which Nazanin explained ta'arof. Someone took the time to put together a slideshow of Iranian scenes to accompany her words. It's both funny and insightful at the same time.

Politeness, pretence and ta'arof in Iranian culture

Here's a nice extended quotation that gives some great examples of ta'arof in Iranian culture. It explains the pretence of being humble and the complicated bluff and counter bluff that can ensue. This is the kind of dilemma that leaves foreigners, and even Iranians, not knowing whether their taxi ride was really free, are they really being invited to dinner and if so, will they be able to get through an evening meal without causing offence to their host.

Good Persian culture is peppered with politeness and a pretense at least of being humble. Iranians have a complicated list of things that are considered good and polite in social situations, and not different from those of other cultures. Generally, you want your child to marry into a good family. You want the families to be educated and wealthy and you want your children to be upstanding and polite. You also want to be looked upon by family, friends, and neighbors alike as a gracious, hospitable and welcoming host. “Taarof” has deep roots in the Iranian tradition of treating your guests better than your own family and being great hosts. 

Taarof is a verbal dance between an offerer and an acceptor until one of them agrees. It is a cultural phenomenon that consists of refusing something that has been offered to you even though you want it, out of politeness. On the giving end, it is offering something that may cost a lot in order to be polite, but not really wanting to give it away for free.
Some examples may clarify taarof. You go over to your aunt’s place and she makes a great Ghormeh Sabzi dish for lunch, which is your favorite. You help yourself to a healthy serving and at the end of it find that you are still hungry. Your kind, loving aunt will offer you another serving and you politely refuse. In this case you are taarof’ing because you would really like to eat more but you are too polite to say yes. But, alas, the Iranians have a solution for this. Your aunt will offer the food a second time and you refuse and then on the third try you can accept without looking like a glutton. Iranians tend to be very sensitive of what others will think of them so this sort of behaviour is expected, although annoying and perhaps antiquated, it is an inherent part of the culture. 

Another example is when you go to buy a dress at the store and ask for the price. If it is a small boutique in Iran, the shopkeeper will inevitably, out of politeness, say it is worth nothing. What he is trying to say is that you are worth so much more than the dress and have put him to shame for asking. In reality, he would like to be paid for the dress and is just being polite. After a second or third inquiry, the shopkeeper will probably give you the correct price and offer to accept payment. 

The art of taarof in the end becomes a ritual or a game that both participants are aware of playing. Some find it annoying, stupid, and a waste of time, asking the guest not to Taarof (“Taarof Nakonid”) when he refuses something. This is a double-edged sword because maybe the offerer is taarofing himself. This is where taarof can be misleading and land you in very sticky social situations. You never know the true intention of either party and you may not be sure if they really want to offer/take something or not. For example, if you are full and your aunt thinks you are taarofing, you are left having to eat the second serving of her food. And if you don’t eat it, you may insult her and her cooking. 

... It is truly one of the greatest distinctly Persian social behaviours that we can think of and is worth experiencing first hand.
From: Persian Mirror

Hey Ayatollah, leave those kids alone!

Classic Pink Floyd song Another Brick in the Wall remade as Hey Ayatollah, leave those kids alone! by Canadian band Blurred Vision:

U.S.-Iranain power relations, politics and conflicts in the early 1970s

Andrew Scott Cooper, author of a the book The Oil Kings: How the U.S., Iran and Saudi Arabia Changed the Balance of Power in the Middle East, was interviewed on the excellent Conversations With History series.

The hour-long interviewed covers a range of interesting topics and sheds light on some previously unknown aspects of the U.S.-Iranian political alliance at the time.

• just how essential the Shah (personally) and Iran were to U.S. foreign policy goals in the Middle East and Asia from the late 1960s through the 1970s
• how Nixon personally gave the green light for Iran to raise it's oil prices
• how the OPEC oil embargo and rising price of oil shifted the balance of power in the Shah's favour
• the Saudi role in worsening Iran's economy and weakening the Shah's position
• the personal relationships between the Shah, Nixon, Kissinger and surrounding figures

Reza Abedi's greatest escape

Wrestler Reza Abedi's life story is full of escapes - from wrestling moves, tricky situations and ultimately, death at the hands of the Islamic Republic of Iran. OC Weekly has a 4,000 word feature, Reza Abedi's greatest escape that describes how he got into wrestling, found himself at the front line of the Iran-Iraq war, outsmarted his enemies and escaped to freedom.

He eventually found his way to American and became a high school wrestling coach running one of the toughest wrestling programmes around. His full life story is coming out in a new book American Wings, Iranian Roots by Kristin Orloff.

American Wings, Iranian Roots
by Kristin Orloff